Nobody wakes up in the morning saying, “Honey, let’s get married, have children, go in debt, get a divorce and be lonely the rest of our lives!”The truth is that nearly half of marriages end with divorce. The happiness levels of those who remain married are unknown.
It’s not enough to have a relationship with anyone. You want it to be the best.
Relational creatures are created to be connected with other people. Our brains are wired to seek love, affection, and attention. Research shows that a lot of our happiness is linked to our relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. It is often overlooked that this subject can have a significant impact on our daily happiness.
The Five Cs
Chemistry, Connection, Compatibility, Communication, Commitment
Healthy relationships are like a winning recipe for cake. To make it successful, you need several ingredients. You can’t leave out any ingredient, or compromise the quality of the ingredients. It won’t be a winning recipe. This is also true for relationships.
Research has shown that happy couples often share some relationship ingredients or components. You have a better chance of having a healthy relationship if there are more parts to your love life. The right couple must have the right mix of ingredients, such as compatibility, communication, commitment, and connection to create a healthy and stable relationship.
Chemistry
Physical Intimacy
Neurotransmitters are chemical substances such as norepinephrine and dopamine. When these transmitters are released, they produce feelings such as euphoria and excitement.
Your brain releases these chemicals when you are attracted to someone. “feel good” chemicals. MRI scans revealed that the brains of men and women are richer in dopamine when they see pictures of their partners. “light-up”. The same thing happened when they were given photos of their friends. If he tells you he wants to make friends, he means that you’re not turning him on literally.
The first signs of chemistry are often early on in a relationship. This is exciting, intense and often short-lived. It usually lasts between several weeks and several months. Eventually, your body will develop a tolerance for neurotransmitters, resulting in a decline of physical passion.
The strongest mutual attraction between two people is Chemistry. Chemistry is an essential ingredient in a successful relationship. However, it’s not the only thing that matters. However, chemistry isn’t the sole determinant of Mr. Right. You might regret it if you allow chemistry to determine whether you pursue a man you love.
The Connection
Emotional intimacy
This could be called “old people love”. Your relationship will be secure and warm if you are able to connect emotionally with your partner. Your connection will grow stronger the longer you spend with your partner.
A couple must feel an emotional connection. Connection has little to do sexually and is all about how the person around you feels. Is your partner comfortable, happy? Are you able to trust each other with your thoughts and feelings?
To be able to emotionally bond with his woman and trust her, he needs to feel secure in the fact that she is honest and trustworthy. The same goes for him. He should be able and willing to make connections with you.
An emotionally mature man is one who can express his feelings and thoughts. You can trust him to be there for you when you are in need. An emotionally unmature man will not listen to you, minimize your emotions, or be there for your help when it is needed.
Compatibility
Although they might be attracted, it does not necessarily mean that they will make good friends. Being compatible is being like-minded. You need to have compatibility in the key areas of your relationships. It is important to share the same basic ideas, thoughts and values. Your likeness will draw you closer when you’re compatible. If you’re not compatible, you can drive each other apart. Do you have to agree on everything? It doesn’t. But, it is easier to have a common view about:
Finances
Disagreements over finances can cause rifts and damage your relationship. The opposite person must be in debt.
Men are most afraid to get hosed in relationships. Let’s take Mr. Right has been dating and courting you for many months. Right has taken you out to dinner and the movies with him, buying you presents for special occasions. It is not something he would want to do. He does not wish for his gift-giving partner to be able charge 19.99% of the price on her handbag. He may have to purchase your Coach bag if you marry.
The same applies to Mr. If Wonderful purchases drinks for everybody knowing that his credit cards have been charged at the maximum, then you are already in trouble.
Friends
Successful couples consider their partner their best friend. A friend can be someone you are close to and who is trustworthy. Friends share their affections, common interests, and time. The best times and the worst are shared by friends. It doesn’t mean he only spends time with you. He may also go out fishing or golfing with his buddies. He will be hanging out with his buddies, but he cannot wait to see you when he gets home at night.
You can also spend time at work with your family or shopping with girlfriends, and you will be able to return home when you get back.
Sensuality of humor
You will find something wonderful if you are able to laugh with your partner. A woman with a sense for humor is more appealing and attractive to men than anything else. You will be able to keep him laughing and continue the conversation over the years, months and even years.
Values fundamental
Although you may have sex and a bed together, you will not be able to share your core values. In certain circumstances, both partners can compromise. There are certain limits to your ability to compromise on basic values if you want a committed long-term partner. When it comes to cheating, lying, stealing or mental, emotional or physical abuse, there is no room for compromise. Those are deal-breakers.
Sexuality
National Health and Social Life Survey revealed that 17% and 12% respectively of male and female victims of sexual abuse were adolescent girls. You should seek help if you’ve suffered any form of abuse. It will bring you comfort to know that your situation is not unique.
Although not all forms of sexual abuse result in problems with sexual behavior in adulthood, it is the worst.
Healthy relationships are sexual ones. While men and women might have different sexual preferences, it is important to discuss your entire sexual life. Do not surprise him with your sexual fantasies six months after you are committed to a relationship. Always be open and transparent.
Communication
Growing up, you learned to communicate through your social network. Every partner has a different set of communication skills. Your responsibility is to teach your partner how to promote good communication. Couples that can communicate their thoughts and ideas effectively increase the likelihood of a lasting relationship.
Learning how to communicate well is key. Partners who learn to communicate clearly and concisely with each other are successful couples. They do not demand too much, don’t lose their temper or name-call each other.
You must be able to communicate effectively and have the ability to accept differences while also being open-minded enough not only to work with others but also for yourself. Couples that master communication respond to the needs of their partners rather than reacting emotionally to them.
Blended families make up a large percentage of today’s families. Keep this in mind when faced with a problem. The problem is what you should be focusing on, not the person.
Take a day to observe how your family and friends interact with you. A voice-activated recorder can be carried to help you listen and communicate with others.
As important as your message, is how you present it. Your solution may be the best, but your wisdom won’t reach the people who listen if it is delivered in a humorous manner.
Time is key to communication effectiveness. Don’t attack him if he comes in at night, or early morning. It is not a good idea for women to shout, hate, or act rudely. Ask him when it is a good moment to speak.
Commitment
Mental Intimacy
Research shows that committed couples make happy relationships. A couple is committed when they make a conscious choice to resolve their problems together, regardless how hard it may be.
Commitment is not something men fear. But they fear being married to the wrong women. He isn’t afraid to speak up about the topic. After Mr. If Mr. Right is interested in you and has spent the time getting to know your emotions, then you will be his only choice.
He doesn’t want to be pressured into committing to sex. You can’t force him to be in a relationship with you until he is ready.
You can slowly withdraw from him and spend more time with your family or friends if the relationship has not moved towards commitment for a while. He will usually bring up the topic after about a few weeks. You can then ask him about his plans and what he envisions for the future. However, this is not the place to put pressure on him or make him feel obligated.
You are the boss of your own life. You have the right to choose what you want, and not be restricted by it. You have done all you can and you are satisfied with your results, Mr. If you are unsure about your commitment you have two options: you can either stay or walk away.