A long distance friend suggested that we go out to dinner Valentine’s Day. The couple has been together several years ago, but they are unable to get together at weekends due to work commitments.
When I asked them if they would prefer to eat more together Valentine’s Day than with others, he replied that he did. I asked him if he thought so. He replied that it was fine. They have been married for years and are at the “no gift, no flower, no gift” stage.
I was prompted to think about whether our relationships need more effort. While it can be nice to live comfortably and not be constantly trying to impress one’s partner, it’s often the small things that help to keep our romance alive.
Those small touches can keep us going through daily life’s mundane tasks and provide a little spark to help us persevere. While we don’t necessarily ‘need’ a bouquet of flowers or a card, they can certainly make us smile when shown affection.
These are ways you can keep your romance alive
Remember the basics.Take care of yourself. Take responsibility for your own health and appearance. Although it can be nice to change out of your formal wear after a long day, it doesn’t make sense to do this every day. You and your partner will feel better if you look good at times.
Do not be a partner that lets you go.Although we change over the years, exercising, regular dental visits, and a healthy lifestyle can help us take good care of our bodies.
Keep your mind and body active.Do you want to spend every evening laying on your back in front of the TV? Then why not take a walk or engage in some other pastimes instead. While “School nights” can be exhausting and time-consuming, the opposite is true of repeating the same old routines every day. Stay current and open-minded to hearing about the news. You can keep your romance alive with a little effort and planning.
Simple touches can make a big difference.Offer to care for the children, so you and your partner have time to shop or play golf. You don’t have to ask or be reminded repeatedly. You both feel more involved in the relationships and it makes things so much simpler and easier.
You can send us a text message.With a short, simple message of “thinking about you” Do not hesitate to tell them, “I love and appreciate you.” You can offer to run a shower for them after work, with their children, or give them a foot or back massage.
Keep the romance aliveSpending money doesn’t necessarily mean you have to spend a lot of money. Gifts such as a frame photo of our favorite place or a collection of songs from our favourite song, a champagne cork, or pressed leaf can be lovely and appreciated ways to show love for your most precious memories. A thoughtful, romantic gift is often appreciated more than a costly department store item.
– We all have multiple relationships.There are many things that we need to juggle, which sometimes can cause stress. Sometimes, work, family and friends are too demanding. Romance is about understanding and being considerate. Romance can be expressed by suggesting that our partner do something to ease their stress, such visiting their loved ones or inviting them for a dinner. It can also be very important to show grace and to go with them to a social event that is meaningful to them.
Reflections show us that keeping romance alive doesn’t have to be about sending red roses or chocolates. Sometimes, showing affection with tender gestures or actions is enough to show that you care. This can help keep romance alive.