The Indisputable Power of a Woman-written by a man
Why is it that men don’t change after marriage, but women do? We will come to the conclusion, which will be the elephant of the room. A woman has the power to make the man she dreams of.
To answer this profound question, let’s look at the “inner workings” of a woman. When women are single and searching for a man, this “mystery man” is often referred to as “Mr. right”. You could even say that the foremost question on a single woman’s mind (when she’s looking for a man) is “When is Mr. Right going to come along?”
Women enter relationships with an idealistic vision of what her “soul mate” will look, act and treat her like. Why shouldn’t she? From an early age, as a little girl, she reads story tales about a “Night in Shining Armor” rescuing the princess from an Evil villain. Children love the fantasy of being princesses and many girls fantasize about getting married.
They use their entire assets to find a man when they are dating. The right outfit is chosen, as well as the appropriate perfume. They try to make the experience fun, lighthearted, and exciting. All of these things are done by women because they have a mission – to find the man that will provide them with financial and emotional security. This is an instinctive need that all women have, but it’s not something they think about.
These two desires are not important during the relationship stage.
A woman’s “public” goal during her dating life is to find a guy who is “nice” and “fun”. This is her goal publically. She says that she wants it, but this is not her real mission. Smart women bring excitement to their relationship, because they know that it will keep the chemistry alive.
And then comes the big day when you receive your wedding photos and the real beginning of your life. It’s overwhelming. Everything that was exciting in the relationship before marriage has stopped.
With all the chemistry slowly seeping out of the relationship, a woman’s goal is now to “develop” her man into someone who will give her emotional and financial security. She has an unspoken expectation. It’s something even women can’t understand.
Every effort made by her husband to fulfill this expectation in marriage results in frustration, resentment, and mixed emotions. Her only desire is that her husband make her feel secure so she can have the life she dreams of.
To her delight, however, she finds that the man she marries still craves the excitement and fun they shared back then. His inability or inability of explaining this desire and his inability/inability to recall what she was doing during their dating years creates tension in the relationship.
In a man’s mind, he fears that if he speaks up and tells his wife that he misses the fun-filled exciting woman she used to be, she’ll become offended and “chew his head off”. She’s tired after finishing her daily chores, not to mention the many needs of her husband.
She now believes her husband is on the same priority list as she, but way lower. This belief is a bad thing for confidence.
Women who know how to maintain the excitement in their marriage are few and far between….especially after being married for 5+ years. This is obviously not about “giving your husband sex”. The thing he really wants is sex, whether or not he realises it. All men (or most) desire that his attractive woman thrills him by the thought of exciting her.
A woman’s power to communicate “you excite me” is all a man needs to become totally dedicated to his woman.
A woman who acts and dresses in a manner that allows her man to feel sexually excited by her can touch a man. She will let him know of any need, wish or desire that she has.
If you want to make your husband 100% committed to you, then you have to let go of all your resentments. If you’re willing to take this first step, you’ll find these kind of results becoming reality…
…You want your husband to stop talking or looking at the woman who lives next door? You’re done!
You want him to talk to his boss to get a raise. It’s not a problem.
You want to have more free time? This is what you’re looking for!
You might be wondering if you, a woman, can find your husband’s most intimate desires.
Contrary to popular belief, marriage is not a guarantee of a man’s or woman’s love for you. When resentment, selfishness and “what’s in it for me” takes precedence over “to love and honor til death do us part”, ALL BETS ARE OFF.
And here’s what YOU, as a woman, can do about it…
You could learn of your husband’s desires through a hand written note, a phone call, an email or even a long talk face-to-face.
Women “in the know” let it be known to their husband that he will never be “verbally attacked” for any desire he might express.
Once you have tapped into your husband’s deepest desires, it is time to teach him how to fulfil YOU as a woman.
Start by talking about what makes you happy .
These are the tasks your HUSBAND will be able to complete. You could describe your day as starting with breakfast at home for both you and the children. Your husband will then clean up the trash, take care of pets and fix a step, before taking the children down to the swimming pool until noon.
You could excitedly chatter on about how might make plans for the babysitter to arrive at 7:00pm, so the two of you can have an evening of “alone time” at one of your favorite restaurants.
You would be admired by your husband and he would gaze across the table at you as though you were the only woman in the entire world. It would become evident that you are the only woman on the planet who compares to you by the end of the night.
You can try it if you’re having a difficult marriage and have lost that close relationship.
This is what it boils down into: A wife who explains to her husband how she can be excited by him, has no words for what her husband does. “Amazing”, “Profound” and “Awesome” all fall short. Only a woman can move her husband to a blind loyalty.
The fact that she wanted to understand his wants (in an engaging and captivating way), sends him in a completely new direction. Toward HER! He isn’t referring to his friends or his playing ability on the golf course, nor to his professional success.
One thing I should warn you about is that marriages can be strained and there may be a lot of resentment in the relationships. You might not get the desired results even if you use this method.
You must also clean up “past hurts” with a “sweep away day”. Prior to you are able to use this technique, you must first confront the hurt you have inflicted on each other in the past.
This is an act that should be done on a separate day. Before you undertake your “sweep away day”, you must know something about men.
Emotionally insecure men are common in the most extreme cases. Men know almost nothing about themselves when it comes to their emotions. It’s not uncommon for men to feel fearful, because feelings can be difficult to process, understand or talk about.
A man may hide his fears by making cruel comments, accusing you, or broadcasting your problems to the rest of the world. Or worse, you could be completely ignored. It doesn’t matter how bad your behavior is, you should know that your man fears being rejected. His fear of being rejected is the reason he has been mistreated.
Fear of rejection is a common fear in men when it comes time to learn how to make them happy. Most men avoid the topic because it is so risky and there are many chances of being rejected. It’s easier to talk about kids, job opportunities and asking questions than facing the fact of being rejected.
You will soon see that women have the indisputable ability to make her man. The ability to make the woman of your dreams is almost impossible for a man. He doesn’t know where or how to begin.
To become one of these rare “women in the know” follow this action plan below:
Step 1: Plan your “sweep away day” and admit how you might have hurt him in the past. You can admit it. Ask for his forgiveness, and then you’ll be done. Ask him to tell you if there is anything that he would like to share, but do not push. Allow him to forgive you and move on. You can get back on the business of living, but you should plan how to approach him. You should speak with enthusiasm and humor to your son. You can get him excited about it.
Step 2: Make a plan for the day that you’ll learn more about his dreams. Once you’ve heard about your desires, and you’ve responded to him with laughter and smiles and playfulness, then ask him if it would be possible to teach you how to make you more like him. When he is eager to know the answer, share this information with him. You should be playful and not just list your wishes.
Step 3: Now that you have a clear idea of what your son wants, and you’ve established a date in the calendar where you will receive it. He will be able to remember the special night.
Remember to have fun and be playful during these conversations. This man is your best friend, right? DON’T HIDE IT! Get your husband to share with you his wishes via phone calls or emails before your wedding. It will also allow you to share what you have discussed. Remember: It all leads up to your husband hearing you say what all men dream of… “You excite me”.
Step 4: Watch him do his job on the big day! You’ll be amazed at how determined he is in completing all the tasks you have discussed over the last few weeks. He is not to be criticized for anything. His intent is important, but not his execution. Be aware of all that he does, and be kind to him. Playful gestures of affection, hugs and encouragement are all welcome. Don’t be afraid to let go on your big day. He is your man. Let him.
Your man will only be able to draw one conclusion from your evening of private conversations: the more you get excited, the better. You were made to feel this way by him. Congratulations! You are one of those unique, unusual and rarest of the rare… a “woman in the know”.
Warning! I must make ONE exception as to who this technique was designed for:
If you are a woman from a traumatized childhood, where your first ten years on Earth were met by emotional or physical abuse, you will find these instructions almost impossible to understand.
Why? Why? It can become so difficult to be loved by others because of childhood pain. Don’t try this climb if this is you. Most likely, you’re not ready.
Find relief to get rid of the pain in your life. My free article “Your Invisible Lifestyle: How is it helping or hurting your marriage” can help you get started. You may discover something that can help you find the answers you need to make your man dreams come true.
IMPORTANT NOTICE:
Since the publication of this article, I have been overwhelmed with strong female opinions against my stance. This is why I attached this epilogue. It addresses these concerns.
This is an outstanding quote by a woman who discovered the technique. This statement perfectly reflects the majority of American women that want their husbands to begin meeting their needs.
“A woman would like conversation but is not allowed to interrupt during the football games, or the golf games, or the basketball games, or the baseball games, or the evening news but she should be ecstatic and ready to drop whatever she was doing when he desires to have sex with her – and she should be thrilled he is giving her his time???”
Let’s see: Which spouse will put the needs of her husband first? THE HUSBAND OR THE WIFES?
I have a question for you: Who’s more difficult to please? Is it the man or woman?
Can a woman please a man? Sometimes.
If the man has a very damaged childhood, he is VERY hard to please, but if he is not too damaged, he is easy to please because there is ONE thing he wants to hear again and again… “you excite me”.
Is it difficult to please a woman?
Most women don’t get it. A woman who cannot comprehend or express all the requirements to please herself is not able to understand and explain what a man needs.
Let’s look at the emotional needs of a woman.
* She wants a man thinking of her not only when she is NOT around, BUT ALSO…when she IS.
* He should make her breakfast , take her out for coffee when she least expects it, notice that she is tired and take over some of her normal chores, give her surprise back rubs at the kitchen table, bring her home a relevant little gift on a Tuesday and more.
* Women are “into” their children, relatives, friends, pets, anything or anyone that can be cared for. A man who takes an interest and asks CONCERN about anyone she cares for, lights up like Christmas trees. When he cares for the people she cares about, it’s a big “turn on”.
* She wants her husband to listen with interest as she talks. Not because she wants to exchange information but because her brain is wired for putting herself in the shoes of others. When he hears what she says, he does the same. Each time he listens and says “Oh, no kidding!” or “So what did you do then?”, he’s allowing her to pour herself into him.
* Women want to feel PHYSICALLY safe and they want to know that their man will do all that is required to make her feel protected.
Now on the opposite end of the spectrum, here are the needs of a man:
Now I pose the same question to you again, are these needs complex?
* He wants to hear her say “you excite me!”
At the foundation of this article, is the following rational:
By nature alone, men far more selfish than women when their needs are not being met. Even though their husbands are not meeting their needs, women tend to be less selfish.
We must now return to the core question. Which spouse should be the first to take care of their spouse?
Unquestionable power over a man is held by the woman.
1. Because her giving nature
2. Because of her sexual power which a man craves
3. The simplicity of man’s most fervent desire…”you excite me!”
Think of it this way “You can pump an unused pump till your back breaks and still, no water will come out of the ground. But when you pour about three quarts of water down the pump first, in short order, gallons will flow out effortlessly.
It’s no different with your marriage.
Should any woman decide to “prime the male pump”, if done correctly, her man will hear her say “you excite me!” The next morning, she will discover that her man…
* Thinks of her when she is not around and when she is.
* Does things like make her breakfast , take her out for coffee, notice she is tired and take over normal chores, give her surprise back rubs, bring home a relevant little gift and more.
* Takes an interest in asking about people she cares about and does it with concern.
* Smiles at her a lot.
* Listens with interest as she talks and allows her to pour herself into him through conversation. As he listens, he says “You are not kidding.” or “What did you do?
* Makes sure she is always feeling physically safe and does what he must so she feels protected.
Without her asking questions, demanding, nagging and defending, all of this could happen. A woman can create the man of her dreams in a week…I’ve seen it happen over and over again with women I work with who are “in the know”.
Why else would the phrase “That poor pathetic slob” only be applied to men, but never to women? Because men have so much less knowledge of relationships than women.
The moral of this story is: Ladies, get ready to pump the gas and receive a reward.
Now I have to mention that if you just can’t bring yourself to take the first move and create the man of your dreams…
…or if your husband wants nothing to do with the marriage…
…or if you are a MAN reading this and you WISH your wife would try this technique but you realize there’s not a chance that she would at this point…
…then know that there IS STILL HOPE FOR YOU…
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